May 13, 2020
In very many societies and for as long as anyone can remember, sex is and has been a taboo subject. Not even the current empowered and self-assured generation is proof against the undeniable embarrassment that comes with talking about such an intimate act. For this reason, sex and all sexual matters are discussed behind closed doors and in hushed whispers.
Many people will hide the fact that all is not well on that front if something does go wrong. A couple with problems in their sex life may choose not to seek help and persevere.
“Please help, I’ve lost my sex drive” is not an admission many people want to make even though speaking about it is the first crucial step to getting a remedy.
All actions, thoughts, and behavior come from the mind. It stands to reason therefore that the greatest sex organ any human being has, therefore, is their brain. What happens when a sexual response is triggered is that information travels from the five senses to the brain following a certain neural pathway that leads to the thought of sex. Being touched in a suggestive way causes the hormones necessary for sex to be released throughout your system in preparation for the activity.
The motivation to have sex is what is called sex drive. If you lose your sex drive, the desire to have sex is gone. Things that used to excite you no longer do and no matter how much you try, you cannot get the same satisfaction from sex that you used to.
What has gone wrong?
If you are thinking “Okay, I have indeed lost my sex drive,” you may be wondering what to do about it. Problems associated with loss of libido can be divided into two categories; Biological and Psychological.
These are the factors that have any and everything to do with your health. Your health status should be the first thing to check in case of a complaint linked with libido. Some illnesses come with the side effect of libido loss. Otherwise, it could simply be a hormonal imbalance. Testosterone is one of the hormones that are responsible for increasing sex drive in women. Too much or too little could affect a woman’s arousal and/or orgasm. Whatever the problem you should get the opinion of a qualified medical practitioner.
Alcohol and drug abuse is another major factor that affects the body and the mind. Alcohol is a known depressant. Alcohol abuse depresses the entire system, which is to say, it slows it down and dulls the senses. The vigor required therefore for a satisfactory bedroom experience and the pleasure derived may be dulled with time.
Drugs alter the normal functioning of the body and affect the brain therefore the neural pathways connected with sex and so may lower one’s sex drive. Eating the wrong foods may not only affect your health but your performance in the bedroom as well. Some foods are considered aphrodisiacs and can be utilized to remedy the loss of sex drive. Lack of exercise may also be a leading factor in libido loss.
Exhaustion could be another factor in decreasing your sex drive. If you are too tired to even think, sex is the last thing on your mind. A good night’s rest could be the remedy you are looking for so sleep a little earlier if you have to be up early. Get a proper night’s rest and see the wonders it could do for your libido.
2. Psychological factors
Psychological problems affect the body as well as the brain. Many people would not think twice about it but it’s worth looking at seriously. Since we have established that the brain is a major sex organ, it stands to reason that problems in one’s sex life could stem from problems with the mind.
Stress is a major mood-killer when it comes to sex. Just like eating, getting up in the morning or enjoying your favorite program, the presence of stress would affect your ability to have sex and enjoy it. Anxiety comes hand in hand with stress.
Worrying over something major in your life can take all the fun out of it. If you have been under a lot of stress lately or are finding yourself anxious most of the time, sex would definitely be one of the last things on your mind.
Trauma is another factor that may affect your sex drive. People who have been raped before or been abused may lose all desire for sex. The effects of the mind and memory on the body may range with the severity of the victim’s reactions.
They may simply lose their desire for sex or become almost manic when approached in a sexually suggestive manner. One does not have to be clinically depressed to suffer its effects. General depression over the loss of your phone or your team losing in a match could affect you so much that your sex drive is affected.
Think about it. You probably won’t want to have sex right after a loved one’s funeral, would you?
3. Low sex drive remedies
There are many ways to achieve sexual enhancement depending on the factors that are affecting your sex drive, to begin with.
– For medical issues, consult your doctor. They may prescribe something for you to increase your sex drive or change your medication if that is the problem.
– Quit drug abuse and/or reduce or quit alcohol intake for a better, healthier body.
– Relax your mind. Do not take sex as a task, even when you are trying to get pregnant. The more enjoyable it is, the more likely you are to get pregnant and enjoy good sex while you are at it.
– Eat the right foods and exercise. Fitness and certain foods added to your diet come with an improved sex drive.
– Consult a therapist for known or underlying psychological problems. The sooner you get these problems checked out, the better it will be for you and your partner.
– Switch it up in the bedroom. Maybe making things more interesting and exploring new positions or sexual fantasies could bring your sex drive back up.
– Switch off the pornography and pause on the masturbation. Your sex drive may have grown too dependent on these things to function without them.