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Erectile dysfunction – partners can lend a helping hand

A lot of people think that keeping their erectile dysfunction (ED) a secret is the best way to go, but the urologists obviously don’t subscribe to that theory. Instead, they recognize that having open discussions with one’s partner is a very big help.

When a patient is getting help from the sexual partner, whether it is a spouse or a girlfriend, it makes the healing process that much easier and can go to sharply reducing the psychological effects of the condition.

Of course, erectile dysfunctioninvolves the inability of the patient to achieve and maintain an erection, and that is something that naturally has a direct effect on the partner.

If a patient has a partner who is repulsed by a diagnosis of erectile dysfunction, that is going to likely retard the process of healing. However, the partners more often than not do have the capacity for understanding, and that is good news.

How can a partner help?

If you happen to be the one that has significant other struggling with their sexual drive. A recommendation that has proven to work; is to let them know that there is no pressure coming from you. Let them know that you are there to listen, help and try to see things from their perspective.

Often times when a person is suffering from this low or no interest malady, they may not be wanting affection of any kind. If you see or hear them express an awareness to not fulfilling an obligation to you, let them know that it’s okay.  Give them the space they may need to get through it. The rewards from your care & consideration at this time could pay big dividends long term for you!

Each and every relationship has its challenges.

This may require some self-assessment on your part and on the part of your lover.

These are some questions that you can ask yourself if you are sincerely interested in finding a remedy for this person that you care about.

– Are you putting pressure on that individual?

– Are you constantly asking for sex?

– Do you spout off or pout when you don’t get the answer that you want?

Often times it is self-imposed guilt that the person is experiencing. In some cases, the results can be very surprising when you just start asking some questions.

Regardless of the dominant contributing factor you can make it easier on him, by letting them know that you care about them and love them, and although you don’t understand what they’re going through, (if you haven’t gone through it yourself) letting them know that you’re there for them can be a simple remedy.

After you go through these questions and think up some of your own. Go to the library, look for books that were written on ways to increase libido. You could be very surprised at the simple contributing factors that create this lack of interest.

What you want to know the bottom line

What are the best ways to increase male libido, other than possibly spending a small fortune going to a couples counselor or sex therapist? Truth be told that may well be the best route for you two to take, follow your instinct on this one.

There are some terrific over the counter natural vitamins for libido revitalization. Astonishing results have been found, in many cases (with many of the vitamins offered) to give fast effective results. There are many herbs and vitamins that will stimulate his sex drive. Ginkgo Biloba and Ginseng are two herbs that are libido enhancers. Others are Maca root, Fish oils, and even Ginger and vitamin E.

Increase his libido with the right diet

Did you know that changing his diet can also act as a libido enhancer! While there are many urban legends regarding what is an aphrodisiac and what will stimulate a libido, here we have some of the more trustworthy natural options.

There are many common herbs, oils, and foods that are known to have libido stimulating properties.

Some foods fall into this category because they resemble our sexual organs. Bananas, carrots, asparagus… these are just some sexually suggestive foods out there.

– Oysters contain powerful antioxidants other minerals, like zinc, that help healthy sexual function.

– A single glass of red wine daily has been shown to increase sex drive. Excessive alcohol consumption causes a lower libido, but moderate consumption like a glass of red wine a day has been shown to increase sex drive. Red wine has a greater libido enhancing effect than champagne.

– Ginseng and Ginkgo Biloba are common herbs known especially for their tea infusions. Both are known to help with the flow of blood in your body. This has a beneficial effect on the brain and also on his sexual organs.

This article is written by Dr. Gaines W. Hammond, the urologist and a Fellow of the American College of Surgeons. All rights reserved, including the right to the public this article by Dr. Gaines W. Hammond.

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